Fear, Quilt, Shame... Reasons to know the "demons"
March 25, 2023
One of the ultimate goals of self-understanding is becoming comfortable with one’s “demons”. When making New Year’s resolutions we often ignore, pretend the demons don’t exist or have no have power over us, etc. Getting ...
If you've ever had a client tell you a grounding exercise "didn't do anything" and weren't sure why, this reference is for you. It maps the common reasons resourcing stalls with neurodivergent clients — difficulty naming feelings, absent mental imagery, retrieval and attention differences, body-awareness and language-channel barriers — and pairs each with a practical adjustment. Observation-first and diagnosis-agnostic, it's meant to be usable at a glance, while flagging clearly which techniques sit within licensed clinical scope.
Perfectionism has a branding problem. Say it in a job interview, and it sounds like a humble-brag ("my biggest weakness is I work too hard"). Say it about an artist, and it sounds romantic. The genius who won't settle. Say it about someone with OCD, and it sounds like suffering. Say it about a narcissist, and it sounds like vanity.
They didn't forget your child's concert to hurt you. They didn't shut down during the argument to win it. Understanding the difference between neurodivergence and something more troubling could change everything.